Friday, June 10, 2005

Till Death Do Us Part

In response to the most dreaded question:

If I died, would you remarry?

I cannot help but want to take this question further. That is because, I truly believe that whenever anyone asks this question, the answer they want to hear is “No!”. However, in their hearts, they will not be persuaded by the ‘model answer’ provided by the other party. (Complicated, difficult to please creatures, aren't we?) Isn’t it a big waste of time then?

The problem is that, when either one of a spouse dies (especially when they are still in their prime), it is a difficult time for the other living party. Especially so when they do love each other. Everyone hopes that their living spouse will mourn for their death, because, mourning for someone is experiencing pain for the loss of a loved one. Mourning for someone is remembering them lovingly. So, we can only hope that our spouses will mourn for our deaths. And in this, we can find comfort that we have mattered to them.

But do we really want them to live the rest of their lives in loneliness (especially if we have yet to have children, and they still have a long journey ahead of them)? I am sure the answer is, “No.” And if people have thought long and hard about this, it really should be a definite “NO!”

Love is never selfish or possessive. We want the person we love to carry on bravely and happily. People need the companionship and support of a spouse. Are we really so mean-spirited and narrow-minded that we will revel in the knowledge that while we have already passed over, our living spouses are leading a life doomed to misery and loneliness? Search your souls and the answer you have been hounding the life out of your partner (pun unintended) IS CRYSTAL CLEAR.

Is it true that if the living spouse remarries, he/ she does not love you dearly?
Answer: If he takes time to mourn for the loss, and eventually, heals…He loves you. (If that bloody fella heaves a sigh of relief and marries his mistress the following week, well, hope he burns in hell, ya?)
Moving on eventually doesn’t mean that he does not love you anymore. You will be kept forever in his loving memory. And it is this wonderful memory of you that will be a part of him, right up to his death. And this is something irreplaceable, something that his new bride can never erase nor take away from you…something that is yours to own. Isn’t that his greatest gift of love to you already?

Daily Trivia:
The Taj Mahal stands on the banks of the river Yamuna in Agra. It was built by the fifth Mughal emperor, Shah Jahan in 1631 in memory of his second wife, Mumtaz Mahal, a Muslim Persian princess. She died while accompanying her husband in Burhanpur in a campaign to crush a rebellion after giving birth to their 14th child. As Mumtaz Mahal lay dying, she asked four promises from the emperor: first - that he build the Taj, second - that he should marry again, third - that he be kind to their children, and fourth - that he visit the tomb on her death anniversary. Construction began in 1631 and was completed in 22 years. Twenty thousand people were deployed to work on it.

4 Comments:

Blogger Sara said...

Very true post :)

3:27 AM  
Blogger Heavenly Sword said...

if i died i would definitely want my spouse to remarry or at least find someone else (after 1 year). What's the point of being sad for the rest of her life?

4:30 PM  
Blogger Darren said...

hi sis.. more like teacher.. ahhh ur entry is so much long.. esp for a person cramming for finals and need to take a break.... anyhoo take care - darren

10:15 AM  
Blogger Victor said...

of course remarry la! wah lau! if not then wat? sit down and mope and cry and hope for resurrection?! ;)

6:01 PM  

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